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Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

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Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil


A.R. Paris please tell our readers why do you call yourself “Paris”, and the story of your label?

P.L.D. Well my name is Paris La Don, the name Paris stuck with me every since high school. Me and my best friend at the time liked to shop a lot and was well known around high school for that reason. So people compared our friendship to Paris Hilton And Nicole Richie. So it just happened that it followed me my whole life. The name of my label is “HOUSEOFLADON”, which is a style house that caters everything that involves fashion.

I started HOUSEOFLADON in 2013 and released my very first collection in 2014. At that time I didn't expect much to come from it. I figured, if I have the talent to design and create wearable art for men and women like me, then I should definitely utilize my gift and get my voice heard. I design for risk takers; people who like to make bold fashion choices and statements. I didn't even expect at that time, that it would turn into a celebrity fashion brand. It took a life of its own.


A.R. When did you realize that you want to be a designer? Who and what influenced you as a designer?


P.L.D. I'm really inspired by art, music and movement. Beyoncé has always been someone who inspired my creativity, and has shown me that taking risk is the only way to succeed in art and in Business. Another person, who has inspired me when it comes to fashion, is Riccardo Tisci. His hip and urban yet so elegant trends has been on my vision board.

A.R. Do you have a role model?

P.L.D. My role model is Beyoncé. She's just amazing. She represents the American Dream. Another role model is Michael Costello, his story is so inspiring. It tells me that no matter what, I can succeed in the fashion business.

A.R. Your clothes are famous in the celebrity world; Ty Hunter (Beyoncé’s stylist) was noticed in several of your pieces. How did you managed to draw his attention?

P.L.D. Ty Hunter loves working with fresh talents. My team and I reached out to him early 2014 and he just happen to love a few pieces from our SS14 collection “Guilty Summer”. We sent him those pieces, and a few moths later he was spotted at a social event wearing one of our Silk Tops, which looked amazing on him. This is one of my proudest moments.

A.R. Recently you were featured as a co-writer of an article in Vogue China, please tell us what are the highlights of this article?

P.L.D. The article in Vogue China that I co-wrote is basically about celebrity wardrobe stylist who dresses some of the world’s biggest stars. A brief summary about who are they and which artists they've worked with throughout their careers. It also features TY Hunter and my involvement with him. I played the role of the American insider to Hollywood’s biggest stylist in the entertainment industry

A.R. How would you describe the style of your label?

P.L.D. The style of HOUSEOFLADON is BOLD, RISKY, SEXY and, HIGH FASHION! I create garments for the brace and beautiful.

A.R. How do you see the future of your label?

P.L.D. The future of HOUSEOFLADON is bright. I just want it to continuously grow and to one day become one of the world’s biggest brands.

A.R. What do you think of fashion in China?

P.L.D. Fashion in China has developed so much that the younger generation now has a greater influence in the culture of fashion; it's not as traditional as it once was. I am happy to experience the evolution of textiles and prints and patterns that is now fluently used to express a more youthful China. Urban wear has always been the fashion industry's top earning apparel due to quality and non-expensive value. China definitely utilizes that opportunity to express a unique point of view by setting trends that are soon to go international! Smart, non expensive, yet effective.

A.R. Do you like your life in China?

P.L.D. My life in China has been very prosperous and I've grown a lot as a human and as an artist. I wouldn't change anything about my life here.

A.R. Now I would want to change the topic of our conversation to personal life. Please share what happened to you recently?

P.L.D. Recently I was involved in domestic violence / abuse with the person I loved and thought loved me the same way. We've been together for a while and this has been one of the hardest things for me to get through because I never thought that my relationship would come down to violence and heartbreak.

A.R. How did you meet your husband?

P.L.D. I met him on an online dating service about 5 years ago and we were off and on. From there we continued to be with each other and share or live together

A.R. When did you realize that your relationship isn’t working?

P.L.D. I realized our relationship wasn't working when I started to feel like everything I was doing was wrong according to him, he complained I didn't do enough, didn't give enough love. When I tried to force it in a way where he can see my love for him he then told me it was too much. It was a catch 22. I was stuck in the middle walking on eggshells trying to please him and not piss him off. That's not a relationship, that's controlling and mentally draining. I loved him deep and I thought it showed.

A.R. What in your opinion led your husband to become an abusive person? Do you blame him?

P.L.D. I don't blame him per-say but at the same time I feel as though he let his past relationship with his family mentally disturb the person he is today. He hasn't let go off that pain, and ultimately I think this is the reason why he's become this way. He wasn't always bad, but when he gets mad, it's a war.

A.R. Why do you think abusive relationship should be stopped? And what advice you can give other victims of home violence?

P.L.D. I believe these types of relationships should be stopped automatically, because a person that says they love you would think twice to put their hands on you in any harmful manner. That isn't love. That's rage, anger, and control issues that were deep imbedded into that person long before you, and that person needs help. It isn't what you are doing wrong, it's them not being 100% satisfied with who they are inside. As a result they take it out on the closest ones to them. I never thought of my ex as an abuser, because I was blinded by love and trying to please him the best way I knew how. But then it started with the psychological abuse making me feel as if I weren't good enough, or I wasn't doing enough when I actually gave my all. Things that he's done for me he would eventually throw them all in my face trying to keep score, when I thought he did it for the love he had for me. If this is something you are currently going through, just leave. It won't get any better, it's not love, it's an illusion and it is dangerous. Leave.

A.R. Why it is important to get away from abusive relationship, and how to secure your self incase it happens to you?

P.L.D. It is important to get out of any type of abusive relationship, because if you don't, it might cost you your life! Talk to your friends close to you and others who's been in this situation, they can help protect you. If it's too dangerous contact authorities and seek safety.

A.R. Is there a life after abusive relationship? How do you stay positive in dark moments of your life?

P.L.D. There's definitely life after an abusive relationship. At first it's hard because all you would think of are those good moments you once shared with the one you loved, you'll think back constantly on the moment that changed everything, and that hurts even more than the physical damage but there will come a time where you look at this situation and feel very lucky you left because you've then come to a place mentally where you are stronger without that person and you start to love yourself even more than ever before.

A.R. In China there is no law confirming neither denying gay social status, gays are socially unprotected. How do you deal with this situation?

P.L.D. There's no law to protect the gay community here in China because for Chinese this culture isn't accepted openly. This makes it harder to protect yourself from any wrong doings caused by hatred. It's sad, but the more we talk about these social issues, the more room we leave for progressive conversations and growth in hopes that we can see a day where laws are changed here in China for the gay community. It starts with us, we have to be brave and start dialogue.

A.R. Do you have a message for your husband?

P.L.D. The only message I have for my ex is, I will always love you


Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil


A.R. Paris,请告诉我们的读者您为什么称自己为“Paris”,还有您的标签故事是怎样的?

P.L.D. Paris这个名字从高中时代就伴随着我了。那时候,我和我最好的闺蜜都是购物狂,而且因此在学校周围还挺有名的。所以,当时

同学们就将我们俩比作是Paris Hilton(帕丽斯·希尔顿)和Nicole Richie(妮可·里奇)。就这样机缘巧合地成了我的名字。我的标签名字

叫“HOUSEOFLADON”,这是一种潮流屋,满足一切与时尚有关的需求。

我在2013年创建了HOUSEOFLADON,2014年第一次推出了我的系列时装。在当时,我并未对它寄予很多期望。后来我想,如果我拥有为像我

这样的男士和女士设计和创造创穿戴艺术的才华,那么我当然应当对我的天分加以运用,让世界聆听到我的声音。我为那些冒险者们,为那些大

胆地表达自己时尚需求的人士设计服装。我当时真的没有想到这会变成一个名人时尚品牌。这一切是始料未及的。


A.R. 您是在什么时候意识到自己想成为一名设计师的?作为设计师,您受到了哪些人和事的影响?


P.L.D. 艺术,音乐和运动真的给了我很大的启发。Beyoncé(碧昂斯)一直在激发着我的创造力,并告诉我只有敢于冒险才能够在艺术和

事业上取得成功。在时尚圈,还有一个人对我的影响很大,那就是 Riccardo Tisci。他的喧哗浮夸却不失优雅的风格使我受益良多。

A.R. 你有行为榜样吗?

P.L.D. Beyoncé是我的行为榜样。她真的很棒。她是美国梦的代表。另一个行为榜样是Michael Costello,他的故事非常励志。它告诉我

无论怎样,我都能在时尚行业占据一席之地。

A.R. 您的衣服在名人圈非常有名;Ty Hunter(Beyoncé的造型师)曾被注意到穿过您设计的衣服。您当时是如何成功吸引他的注意的?

P.L.D. Ty Hunter喜欢与新秀共事。我和我的团队是在2014年初联系到他的,而且他碰巧也喜欢我们SS14系列时装“罪恶之夏”的几款新

品。我们将这几款送给了他,几个月后,公众就看到他在社交场合穿着我们的丝质上衣,而且非常适合他。这是我们最骄傲的时刻之一。

A.R. 最近您作为联和作者在时尚中国发表了一篇文章,能给我们分享一些这篇文章的要点吗?

P.L.D. 我作为联和作者在时尚中国(网络版)上发表的这篇文章主要是介绍名人的服装造型师,世界最大牌的部分明星的穿着打扮都出自

于他们之手。我们简要介绍了他们是谁,以及他们在其职业生涯中所共事的明星。其中也包括TY Hunter和我与他的一些接触。我还是非常了解

好莱坞娱乐圈最大牌的造型师的内幕消息的。

A.R. 您如何描述您的标签风格?

P.L.D. HOUSEOFLADON的风格是大胆,冒险,性感和高街时尚!

A.R. 您如何看待您的标签的未来?

P.L.D. HOUSEOFLADON的未来是光明的。我只是想它不断地发展成熟,有朝一日能成为世界最大品牌之一。

A.R. 您对中国时尚有什么看法?

P.L.D. 中国的时尚业发展很迅猛,如今更加年轻的一代已经对时尚文化产生了更大的影响;这跟以前不可同日而语。我很高兴可以见证纺

织,印刷和样式的变革,这些元素如今正在被娴熟地加以运用,展现了一个更加年轻化的中国。都市服装一直以来在时尚行业都是利润最大的

,这是由其品质和成本决定的。中国当然也利用了这样的机会,通过国际潮流的引领表达了自己独一无二的视角!漂亮得体,价格不贵,但是很

能彰显气质。

A.R. 你喜欢在中国的生活吗?

P.L.D. 我对在中国的生活非常满意,无论是个人还是艺术创作领域,我都成长了不少。我很享受这种安定的生活。

A.R. 现在我想将我们交流的话题转到个人生活方面。您能给我们分享一些您的近况吗?

P.L.D. 最近我卷入了家庭暴力事件,我很爱他,也曾以为他同样爱我。我们在一起有段时间了,这对我来说是一个很大的打击,因为我从

未想到我的感情会毁于暴力和心碎。

A.R. 您当初是怎么认识您的丈夫的?

P.L.D. 我是在5年前通过网上的约会服务认识他的,这中间我们也是分分合合。但是最终我们还是选择继续在一起并迈入婚姻殿堂。

A.R. 您是什么时候意识到您的感情出现了问题?

P.L.D. 当我开始感觉我所做的每件事在他看来都是错的时候,我意识到我们的感情出现了问题,他总是抱怨我做的不够,没有给他足够的

爱。当我试着强迫自己尽可能地表达出对他的爱时,他却告诉我说这太过了。这就像是第22条军规。我既要试着去取悦他,同时又要小心翼翼地

避免触怒他。这不是正常的感情状态,这是控制欲和精神耗竭的体现。我曾经深爱着他,而且曾以为他感受得到。

A.R. 在您看来,是什么导致您的丈夫变成了一个有暴力倾向的人?您怪他吗?

P.L.D. 就我自身而言,我不怪他,我感觉像是他的上一段感情对他造成了很大的创伤。他始终没有放下,进而导致他成为了现在这个样

子。他并不是一直都处于这样的状态,只不过当他发怒时,情绪就变得异常狂躁。

A.R. 您为什么认为恋爱暴力应该终止?您对于其他家庭暴力的受害者有什么建议?

P.L.D. 我认为这些类型的恋爱应当自动停止,因为一个说过他爱你的人在做出这种伤害行为之前应当重新考虑一下。那不是爱。那是深植

在之前的那个你的心中的怨气,愤怒和控制欲,那个人需要帮助。这并不是你做错了什么,而且他们对于心中的另一个自己不甚满意。这样一

来,他们就会将内心的恶魔以这样的方式宣泄出来。我之前从不认为我的前夫是一个施暴狂,因为我盲目地在爱他,不惜一切代价地去取悦他。

但是之后的心理伤害使我感觉自己好像不够好,或者说做得不够多,而实际上我已付出所有。当他对我暴力相向的时候,我曾天真的以为他对我

的爱依然未泯。如果你们有人也在经历这样的事情,离开那个人吧。这种情况不会有任何好转,这不是爱,这是幻觉,非常危险。离开吧。

A.R. 为什么远离恋爱暴力非常重要,如何在发生这种情况时保证自己的安全?

P.L.D. 从任何类型的暴力恋爱中抽离出来非常重要,因为如果你不这样做,你甚至可能付出生命的代价!告诉你身边的朋友以及那些遭遇

这类情形的人,她们可以帮助保护你,如果联系当局,寻求安全保障过于危险的话。

A.R. 这种暴力恋爱之后会有新生的机会吗?在您生命中的黑暗时刻,您是如何保持积极的心态的?

P.L.D. 暴力恋爱之后当然有新生的机会。开始的时候会很艰难,因为你所能想到的一切都是过去你与深爱的那个他所分享的美好时光,面

对人事全非的现在,而你还在不断地回忆过去,这要比身体所受的伤害更加的疼,但是总将会有那么一天,也就是在你回头看的时候你会感觉自

己非常幸运选择了离开,因为现在的你在离开他之后变得更加坚强,甚至比以前更加爱惜自己。

A.R. 在中国,目前的法律对于同性恋的社会地位不置可否,同性恋是不受社会保护的。您是如何看待这样的现状的?

P.L.D. 中国目前并没有保护同性恋社群的法律,这是因为中国文化对此无法公开认可。这使得保护这类人群免遭憎恶所引起的过错行为的

伤害变得更困难。这是很悲哀的,但是我们越多地讨论这样的社会事件,越多地使之引起社会人士的广泛关注,那么我们便可以期待有朝一日或

许中国会为这类特殊群体专门出台必要的法律法规。这要从我们开始,我们必须要变得勇敢,不能回避相关的话题。

A.R. 您对您的丈夫有什么话要说吗?

P.L.D. 我对我的前夫只想说一句,我将永远爱你...



Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil
Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

photography by 刘存君 Jun

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil

Interview with Paris La Don - Vogue China Contributor, Fashion Designer and Abusive Relationship Survivor. 采访帕里斯· 拉东—中国时尚致力者, 时尚设计师和虐待关系的幸存者 Edited by Anara Emil



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